Joe Carter on "5 Facts about polyamory and consensual non-monogamy"

You can find the entire article here. The Russell Moore video below is embedded in the article and can be watched here.

After I highlight a couple of facts from the article, I have a couple of thoughts I’ll share.

Fact #2:

The range of consensual non-monogamous relationships includes: polyamory (multiple romantic/sexual partners), polygamy (one person married to multiple partners), group marriage (each person in the relationship is married to the others), open relationship/marriage (a committed or married couple that is not committed to sexual fidelity), polyfidelity (a relationship with multiple partners but that restricts sexual activity to within a certain group), monogamish (couples that are sexually polyamorous but remain “emotionally monogamous”), swinging (similar to open relationships, but conducted as an organized social activity, often involving some form of group sex; sometimes referred to as wife/husband swapping), triad (a polyamorous relationship of three people), and relationship anarchy (participants in the relationship are not bound by set rules or norms).

Fact #3:

Nearly 1/5 of under-30s have engaged in sexual activity with someone else with the knowledge of their partner, according to a 2016 poll. Overall, 11% of Americans said they have had sexual contact with other people with the consent of their partner, while 19% have had sexual contact without their consent. Younger Americans are much more likely to report having had sexual contact with other people with the consent of their partners

Here are my thoughts:

This isn’t something on the fringe of our society today. This is a trending issue in the current sexual revolution discussions in popular media. I don’t know how much our kids are hearing about this, but they are and will soon be hearing about it much more.

I’m convinced that many (if not most or all) Christians who buy into some parts of the current sexual revolution, usually departing from an orthodox view of Scripture authority, will soon need to give the thumbs up to polyamory based on the kind of arguments they have been using to legitimize other behaviors the Bible calls sin. Some may object to that conclusion, saying that fidelity (not gender) is still an issue for them. I’m not convinced by their arguments and respectfully disagree. I believe a strong case can be made that they have already undermined the biblical rationale for fidelity.

All that being said, we’re called to love even those with whom we disagree, we need to talk about this with a humble spirit (and we really do need to talk about this, especially with our children), and fear about the future is a symptom of a creeping unbiblical perspective.

Be concerned. Be informed. Care. But don’t be shrill, anxious, and unloving if you actually want to win someone over to a gospel-centered perspective.

Williams P. Smith on "6 Ways to Bring Light to Heated Talks with Teenagers"

You can read the whole article here. What Smith says in this article is good advice for other relationships as well. Here’s one of the ways from the article:

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Call yourself out when you’ve disrespected them.

Your children already know when you are disrespectful, so let them know that you’re also aware—and that you’re not okay with what you’ve done. It’s normal Christian life to confess our sins to each other (James 5:16), so I’ve found it helpful to say out loud to my kids, “I’m yelling,” or “I’m interrupting,” or “I’m being condescending.”

You then need to apologize to them like you’d want them to apologize to you. When you do, you’re not only living faithfully before Christ, you’re also helping them learn what to do when they say something wrong. How else will they know what a good apology sounds like if they haven’t heard many from you?